Bereavement

No member of our parish family will grieve alone.

"From its earliest beginnings the Church has held that both Divine and natural law enjoin each of us to the exercise of the Spiritual and Corporal works of mercy. Not the least of these works are the directives to comfort the sorrowful and bury the dead.

Our Ministry to the Bereaved will always strive to bring comfort and healing no matter the source or manifestation of grief. Validating the reality of every individual who comes to us, we will serve, to the best of our ability, whenever and wherever we are needed, with the help of God."

Pastoral Plan for the Development and Operation of a Parish-Based Ministry to the Bereaved

For information on any of the following, or to participate in this ministry, please contact Stephany Crane at 410-974-4366 or email scrane@standrewbythebay.org.

Serving the Dying and their Families
Realizing the pain of grief may start for many in the months or weeks before death,we work with the health care ministry to reach out to the dying and their families.

We offer:

  • Compassionate listening and prayerful presence
  • Praying for and with the individual and the family
  • Sacramental visits
  • Assistance planning the funeral liturgy, if desired.

Serving the Bereaved at the Time of Death:
We offer:

  • Assistance in planning the funeral liturgy
  • Readers, altar servers, Eucharistic ministers for the funeral as needed
  • Help with hospitality for a reception after the funeral
  • Compassionate listening and supportive presence
  • Information about grief and suggestions to help families through the hard work of mourning
  • Links with other support ministries and referrals as needed

Serving throughout the time of Bereavement:
We offer:

  • An evening of prayer and remembrance each November to honor our deceased loved ones
  • Bereavement education/ support groups open to the community at large–Ongoing open group meets the 1st Monday of each month Intensive 8 week group meets each fall
  • One-on-one companioning
  • Workshops on topics such as children and grief, grieving a miscarriage, and getting through the holidays open to the community at large
  • A library of material on grief-related subjects

And specifically for those suffering pregnancy loss:
We encourage you to take advantage of any of the above you may find helpful.
We also offer:

  • Blessing of the parents
  • Remembrance and naming prayer services for an unbaptized child (These may be celebrated in the hospital, in the privacy of you own home, in a small service in the chapel at St. Andrew’s, or, with a larger group, in the church itself. There is no time limit for these services, and no constraints regarding the length of your pregnancy you have a right to grieve the loss of your baby whether he died at 2 months,6 months, or full term.)

    Some Resources You May Find Helpful:

    How to help a grieving friend and eight things not to say.

    Someone I love has died.
    Source: Center for Loss and Life Transitions

    I want to help someone who's grieving.
    Source: Center for Loss and Life Transitions

    Grief and loss as Alzheimer's progresses.
    Source: Alzheimer's Association

    The grief of suicide.
    Source: Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research

    Pregnancy loss.
    Source: Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research

  • SUPPORT GROUPS and MORE

    Facilitators:  Marlene Monaghan and Stephany Crane

    Contact:  Stephany Crane, 410-974-4366

    NEW

    Finding Our Way
    1st and 3rd Wednesday afternoons
    Offsite
     
    Find ongoing fellowship for the long-term everyday challenges of bereavement.
     
    FALL Bereavement Education / Support Group
    8 Wednesday evenings, beginning September 2017
    7:30-9:00 p.m.
    Conference Room
     

    Find support and comfort, and learn about the hard work of grief in this 8 week offering. We use Dr. Alan Wolfelt’s book, Understanding Your Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing in your Heart.
    Cost for the book, $25. (But no one will be turned away for inability to pay.)

    Service of Prayer and Remembrance
    Sunday, November 5, 2017
    7:00-8:00 p.m.
    Church

    Join us as we support and pray for one another, and remember and celebrate the lives of our deceased loved ones. Their names will be read aloud during the prayer service. In addition, we will lovingly display photos and mementos of them in the sanctuary. You are invited to bring a photo or memento with you on the evening of the service. It will be suitably cared for, and returned to you before you leave.

    Daytime Bereavement Education / Support Group
    8 Tuesday mornings beginning February 2018
    9:45 to 11:15 a.m.
    Conference Room